A bride and groom who opted for a small wedding came up with a unique solution to include their larger circle of loved ones in the occasion.
In a recent post on the popular Reddit thread WeddingShaming, a friend of the couple explained that they were not invited to the wedding, a decision they were "totally cool" with considering the very small scale of the event. "Having a close-knit ceremony is everyone’s prerogative," they wrote.
However, the friend said they were later invited — as part of a larger group — to watch the wedding on Zoom. Only, they wouldn't be watching in real time. Instead, the bride and groom planned to share a recording of their ceremony for the group to view together with them a week later.
"In my mind, this is so tacky. Who wants to attend a Zoom session and watch a ceremony that already happened with the rest of the B squad and not even get rewarded with a party after?" the friend griped, writing in the post's title that they felt like the bride and groom were "splitting" their guest list into "A-listers and B-listers."
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In the comment section of the post, people weighed in on the couple's behavior. Many agreed with the original poster that the Zoom viewing session was an offputting choice.
"The offer of a live stream for anyone who can't make it is a nice gesture. What they did is bonkers," one Redditor wrote.
"Is this a thing now? This is crazy," another person chimed in. "They had their day and they picked the people they wanted to be a part of it. It is the equivalent of friends going on vacation and making you look at hundreds of their pictures when they get back."
Someone else joked, "It can be a struggle to attend Zoom meetings for work. No way I am going to a Zoom wedding."
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Another commenter suggested that the bride and groom may have had an ulterior motive with the group of uninvited friends. "They want gifts from you. That’s what this is — a gift grab," they wrote.
"Are they expecting you to bring gifts to this meeting by chance?" added another commenter.
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Many other people shared their own stories of being relegated to the "B-list" at a wedding.
"I was B-listed once (10 years ago) and I still haven’t forgotten about it, or looked at the bride the same way again," a commenter said, recalling how after the wedding ceremony they were stopped by staff at the door to the country club ballroom where the reception was being held.
"[The staff member] asked for the 'reception card.' I was like, 'What?' And he said, 'The reception is only for guests who got a reception card.' He said he would take any gifts, though, and put them on the gift table," they continued.
"So basically, only half the guests were invited to the reception. But they still wanted gifts from the half that wasn’t invited."
